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Posted by: James 3/12/2007 10:16 AM

Last week was one of those not-so-great weeks where work was a challenge and there were other peripheral issues going on that I won’t bore you with which made we want to get to this week ASAP and start all over again.  As much as the aforementioned crap was on my mind, the biggest concern was when Megan fell down a few stairs two Sundays ago.  She’s always had a chronically bad back but this last misstep really debilitated her for a while.

 

The scenario began when the Thai food we had ordered for delivery arrived and I went to pay for it.  As I’m paying the delivery man, I hear a really loud bump and I yell “Are you OK?”  The delivery man gave me a “Is someone kidnapped in your house and is trying to escape?” look.  It turns out that as Megan was leaving the basement, her cell phone rang and when she turned to go get it, she lost her balance and fell.

 

Why was I concerned so much this time?  Well, for starters, she is 4 months pregnant.  Thankfully she fell on her ass and not on her stomach.  But the bottom (no pun intended) line was the added pressure really did wonders on her back this time.

 

It didn’t get real bad until Wednesday morning when she was in agony and couldn’t even get out of bed.  It’s not easy to keep a poker face when your pregnant wife says “I’m feeling crampy” at the same time so we went to the OB office that morning to make sure the baby was OK.  It was the first time I had heard the heartbeat so that was a silver lining in an otherwise crappy week.  She’s been going to the chiropractor every day and she’s about 80% back to normal as of today, thankfully.

 

Now, the main point of today’s post was not to delve into family matters but to actually discuss a reaction that I got while in the doctor’s office.  Yeah, yeah, my wife hurt her back but would it really be worth an only child talking about that if he didn’t tie it into how it affected him? 

 

We obviously have a planet full of abusive husbands and fathers and it gives the majority of dads a bad name.  Now, put yourself in a nurse’s shoes for this scenario.  A pregnant wife comes in with her husband and says she “fell down the stairs”.  It’s a classic cover story for abused spouses, right up there with “I walked into a door/wall”.  So, while Megan is retelling her story, the nurses hear the phrase “fell down the stairs” and I noticed the (understandably) obligatory silent-but-defeaning “Did your husband throw you down the stairs?” look emanating from the nurse’s face.  This was definitely not the time to make a “The bitch just can’t bake me a pie without fucking it up” comment.  It was a moment where I wanted to explain that I didn’t do anything to her and that she really did fall on her own. 

 

It reminded me of the Seinfeld episode where he was scratching the side of his nose while at a stoplight and from the vantage point of the driver next to him, it appeared that he was picking his nose.  He made eye contact with her and mouthed the word “Nooooooo!!!!!” as she drove off and he never got to explain that he wasn’t a nose picker.

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Re: Back to nuts?    By Syl on 3/12/2007 12:04 PM
Sorry about some of this news, but may I toss in a Congratulations?!! Okay. And welcome back to your other space...

We accept your apology on behalf of the receivers of many abusive asshole people (women abuse, too - it's just more shameful). The half-sneaky glance over at you - the 'concerned'-in-public husband - that's the time to ask, Would you like me to leave (the room)? The wife nearly yells, NO! at the thought, they look even MORE concerned at your transparent manipulation of her and physically close ranks around her. Their glances are now over their shoulder at you. Oh! how you control her so easily... you're an actor like many abusers, aren't you! "Listen, this will take a while, right? I'm going go get a beer somewhere..." Joking aside - good. And may I also say finally! My sister was abused by her ex and it's good to hear that all the at-large medical profession is paying attention to situations and people who might be at risk instead of merely symptoms.

And uh - happy daylight early time - may it not interfere with things so much in the fall. Myself, I am planning on burning FAR less coal with the 'newfound' light time. Pfffft.

Re: Back to normal this week?    By J on 3/12/2007 12:10 PM
That sucks bro...hope Megan makes a full recovery... and yes, I'd too, would be hesitant about telling people about her "falling down the stairs"....ouch!

Re: Back to normal this week?    By Jason's Mom on 3/12/2007 7:11 PM
So glad that Megan is OK, and congratulations! You are doing your part to fill the world with beautiful children. Now, can you get Jason to do the same? At this point, I'm thinking maybe he needs a detailed drawing...


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